April 20, 2018

It’s Never Too Late

By Sheryl Aronson, MFT

(This is a short inspirational essay I wrote published in The MoJo Manual written by Jacqui Brown.)

When I was in 5th grade and they asked the question: What do you want to be when you grow up?  I had two answers; the first female baseball player and a writer.  Although a career in baseball was not in my future (I had to switch to softball and still play) I did succeed in accomplishing my second goal -50 years later.

Let me backtrack a bit.  Throughout elementary and high school , I picked up the pen and wrote short stories and poetry.  As an English Minor and Communications Major at Boston University, I wrote  short television scripts, one film, and many English papers.  I even submitted an article to the University’s newspaper regarding Boston University’s first female basketball team (which I played on) and they published it without giving me a by-line.  Yet, I didn’t consider myself a writer.

In my mid-twenties, I wrote for a newspaper called The World Tribune which was published by the Buddhist organization, SGI.  This is where I sharpened my writing chops and wrote articles on SGI members who had changed their lives around because of chanting.  I covered the 200-year birthday celebration in Boston, 1976, as we celebrated it throughout the city.  I wrote about the Boston Pops, and Jazz musicians who were members of SGI that gigged in Boston.  Yet, I didn’t consider myself a writer.

Then I made a determination.  At the age of 26, I decided I wanted to become a professional writer.  I sent that desire out into the Universe and miraculous events befell me.  First, I had read an article in Ebony Magazine about an incredible young lady named Terri Lyne Carrington who was already a professional jazz drummer at 12-years-old.  She lived in Medford, Massachusetts which was a suburb of Boston.  Immediately, I made up my mind that Terri would be the subject of my first professional article.  But how was I going to contact her?  Within a week’s time, that problem was solved.  I went to hear the legendary Rahsaan Roland Kirk play a the Jazz Galley in Copley Square.  Who then walks into the club?  Terri Lyne Carrington and her father, Sonny Carrington.  I stood there in disbelief.  I had never approached anyone I didn’t know for an interview; plus I didn’t think I had the credentials to ask for an interview.  However, I wasn’t going to walk away from this fortuitous circumstance.  I walked up to Sonny Carrington and introduced myself.  When I asked him if I could write an article about his young daughter, he just smiled and said, “Sure.”

The other kismet happenstance that occurred was I received a telephone call from a woman who was a SGI member and she had just moved from Los Angeles to Cambridge.  Her name was Lisbeth Gant.  I asked her where she was living in Cambridge …”Chauncy Street,” she replied.  Hmmmm.  I lived on Chauncy Street.  I asked her who introduced her to Buddhism … “Herbie Hancock,” she replied. Hmmmm. Herbie Hancock had introduced me to Buddhism too.  Lastly, I asked Lisbeth what do you do for a living? She replied, “I am a writer and the West Coast Editor of Essence Magazine.”

Needless to say, Lisbeth mentored me and I published my first article on Terri Lyne Carrington in Soul Teen Magazine.  In 1979 I was also published by Modern Recording Magazine writing an article on jazz musician, Maynard Ferguson, and again writing a cover story in 1980 on Herbie Hancock.  I had challenged myself to do something I had never done before.  Modern Recording was a technical magazine that focused on technology in the music business.  I had absolutely no knowledge of microphones, amplifiers, computers, and recording equipment, but the articles were required to highlight these subjects.  Somehow I was able to get the engineers of both musicians to talk shop with me so I could write intelligently.  Mission accomplished.  Yet, I still didn’t have the confidence that I was good enough to continue my career as a professional writer.

By now, I had moved from Boston to Los Angeles to pursue a career in the movie industry.  I landed a job with a film producer as the production secretary for the film Roller Boogie starring Linda Blair.  My foot was in the door.  However, I was extremely intimidated by the astronomical amount of talent that encompassed me.  Me? Sheryl? I am a writer? No way!

I didn’t have the self-confidence or maturity for going forward.  I had no one cheering me on to stick with my dream.  I also realized after two years working in the entertainment industry that I didn’t enjoy the environment, the superficial interactions, and the obsession with the business.  I got out.  I switched gears to Psychology and went to Cal State Northridge to get my Masters in Psychology so I could become a Marriage, Family Therapist.

For 25 years my creative writing lay dormant.  I had given up on my dream.  In 2001, I was diagnosed with breast cancer.  My life went into a dark hole … I wrote these lines in my Memoir: As I turned 48, prepared to fight the disease of cancer, these footprints melted rapidly into a pool of depression.  The portal to the grave opened.  I walked inside completely unaware of my dissent into the Hades of my existence.

From 2001 – 2013 I lived through hell and didn’t think I would ever return to a life of happiness. (This is the story I tell in my Memoir.) It’s a miracle I am alive. It’s a miracle I have been able to write again.

God granted that little girl’s dream to be a writer in my 60th year.  This time around, I have gained the confidence, the depth of spirit, the courage, and the determination to forge forward no matter what.  I began writing articles again in 2014.  (And guess who was again my first subject?  Terri Lyne Carrington 3-time Grammy winner.) I have become a staff writer for The Hollywood 360.  I have my own entertainment blog in Agenda Magazine called Arting Around and have a feature article in every issue of their hard copy magazine.  My first book will be coming out very soon; plus I am half way through writing my first novel.  I plan on writing until I take my last breath.

I am a writer.  It’s never too late to claim oneself.